Potty Training Basics: When to Get Started

Potty Training Basics: When to Get Started

Is it the right time to start potty training your little one? Every toddler is different, but some common signs can help you decide if your child is ready to take this big step. Let’s explore what to look for and how to get started.

At what age should I start potty training my toddler?

Starting potty training is a massive milestone for you and your toddler—it marks a big step in their growing up and a memorable chapter for you. The best time to start potty training depends on your little one since every child is unique. Most kids begin to show they’re ready for the potty anywhere from 18 to 24 months. No stress if your toddler isn’t there yet; some children might not be ready until they’re almost 3.

When considering whether it’s time to start, look for signs that your child might be ready. These can include not liking the feel of a dirty diaper, being able to follow simple instructions, or showing curiosity about bathroom habits—like trying to follow you into the bathroom or asking questions about it. They might also keep a dry diaper for a few hours, showing their bladder is starting to hold more for longer.

Take it from my own experience—I tried potty training my daughter when she was 18 months old, but it just led to a lot of tears and stress for both of us. I decided to step back and not push her. I thought she might never be interested, especially since she also struggled with constipation, which can make the whole thing even trickier. But to my surprise, when she was 28 months old, she brought the potty to me and told me she wanted to use it. I was shocked and so happy! It only took three days to train her after she showed she was ready. This shows that our kids often know best when they’re ready.

So, don’t worry or wonder about when the day will come. Just take a deep breath, relax, and trust your child. They’ll let you know when they’re ready. Pushing them before they’re prepared might make things more complicated than they need to be. When you notice those readiness signs, that’s a good time to bring out the potty and see how they react. Remember, every child is different, and respecting their timing is key to making potty training successful without unnecessary pressure.

How can I tell if my toddler is ready for potty training?

As my little munchkin grew, I gently nudged her towards using the potty. I’d say, “It’s time to wave goodbye to diapers because you’re a big girl now, just like mommy.” But she was not on board when she reached that usual potty-training age of around 18 months. No way, no how. Instead of showing the typical signs that she was ready, she did the opposite. Every time I tried to get her on the potty, it ended in tears. She would run away, even bring me a diaper, and ask me to put it on her, clearly telling me, “Mama, I’m not ready for this yet.”

But when she was ready, there was no mistaking it. She took the reins, brought her potty to me, and proudly declared she needed to do a “pee pee.” Her unique way of telling me, “Okay, Mama, I’m ready now.”

This goes to show that every child is different. Some toddlers are eager to start potty training as early as 18 months, while others might not be ready until well after their third birthday. It can feel like you’re a detective, trying to spot the signs that they’re prepared to move on from diapers. But it becomes much more manageable once you understand what to look for. Here are some signs that your toddler might be ready to start potty training:

When your little one starts tagging along every time you head to the bathroom, asking a million questions about what everything does, or even wanting to see what their big brother or sister is doing on the toilet, it’s a pretty good clue that they might be ready to try potty training.
If your tot is getting fussy about being in a wet or dirty diaper and comes to you asking for a change, take it as a sign—they’re probably ready to start learning to use the potty. Also, watch how often their diaper is dry for longer stretches, like a couple of hours. This means their bladder is getting the hang of holding on a bit longer, which is critical for successful potty training.
Notice if their bathroom habits are becoming predictable, too. If it seems like you can tell when poop is on its way almost down to the minute, they’re ready for potty training. This regularity makes it easier to set up a successful potty routine.
It’s super important that your child can let you know when they need to go—whether they’re using words, making a particular face, or doing a funny little dance. If they’re already telling you when they need a diaper change, they’re likely ready to learn how to use the potty.
Also, remember to check if they can pull their pants up and down alone. It’s a simple thing but super crucial for potty training. You’re in good shape to start if they’ve got that down.
Potty training also means your toddler needs to be good at following basic directions. If your toddler is getting better at understanding and following simple instructions, it’s a green light to start potty training.

And if your little one is all about doing things by myself!’ embracing their independence and potty training could be a great way to support their development. This push for autonomy is often a telltale sign that they’re ready to take on the challenge of potty training.

How long does potty training take?

Potty training can feel a bit like a treasure hunt adventure, full of unexpected twists and turns! How long it takes depends on your little one. Some kids pick it up fast, mastering the potty in just a few weeks, while others might take a bit longer, sometimes months, or years to get completely comfortable.

I potty trained my toddler in just three days! Yep, it’s called the 3-day potty training method. We had tried a few times before without success, but everything suddenly clicked when she was about 27-28 months old. We dedicated three solid days to focusing solely on potty training—no distractions, just loads of encouragement and patience. It worked. Those three days, I made all the difference.

Try the 3-day potty training method when your little one is between 24-28 months old because, at this age, they’re usually more mature and better at following directions. They listen more and can better understand what you’re asking them to do, which can help make the process smoother. If your toddler is in this age range, it might be the perfect time to give it a shot. However, if you feel your toddler is ready and good at following instructions even a bit earlier, try it. Each child is different, and you know your baby best—so trust your instincts and your little one’s readiness!

Being flexible is critical. Don’t be surprised if your toddler shows interest and seems to regress one day. This kind of back and forth is typical and part of the process. Remember, it’s rarely a straight path. For example, your child might get the hang of peeing pretty quickly, but pooping in the potty could take a bit more time, or vice versa.

It’s best to start potty training during a calm period when no other significant changes are happening in your life. This way, you both have the space and patience to focus on potty training without extra stress. Successful potty training isn’t just about being physically ready; your child must also be emotionally and mentally prepared.

How often should I take my toddler to the potty?

When you start potty training, aim to take your toddler to the bathroom every two to three hours to help them catch on to the routine. Depending on how much they drink, they may need to go more often, every 30 minutes, an hour, or an hour and a half. Again, it’s all based on how much they drink. At first, this frequent potty use might seem confusing for both of you—after all, when they were in diapers, it was hard to tell just how often they peed. But don’t worry. They’ll get comfortable holding it for about two to three hours as they get the hang of it. Watch for little signs they need to go, like if they start squirming or pulling at their clothes. Initially, you might want to take them more frequently to avoid accidents and make them feel comfortable. Accidents are part of the process, so there is no stress there. Each kid is different, so adjust the schedule as needed for your child.

How can parents make potty training easier?

Before starting potty training, I chatted with our pediatrician. She advised me to try it, but if my little one wasn’t ready, that’s okay. Forcing it might lead to performance anxiety, and they might even start avoiding the toilet altogether. She suggested letting my toddler play with the potty to get familiar at her own pace. Sure enough, she wasn’t ready at first—she’d bring me her diapers, crying to put them on, so I put the brakes on training. Then, around 27 months, she came to me with her potty ready to go. That was our cue!

Potty training is tricky, but here’s how you can make it smoother:

Cheer on every attempt, big or small. Celebrate the wins, and don’t sweat the slip-ups.
Regular bathroom trips can help. We aimed for every two to three hours to build a routine. Mention that soon they’ll start using the potty at certain times, like after meals or before bed.
Look for the little signals that they need to go, like fidgeting or pulling at clothes.
Let them choose a fun potty or decorate it with stickers. Stories and songs about potty training can also make the process more enjoyable.
Easy-off clothes are a must. Think elastic waistbands—no fiddly buttons or zippers!
Know where the restrooms are and have a portable potty handy for those just-in-case moments.
Accidents? They’re part of the journey. Staying chill shows them there’s no pressure.
Use simple, clear language to explain what the potty is for. You can demonstrate with a doll or a teddy bear to show them what’s expected.

How can I manage potty training while we’re away from home?

Taking your toddler out while they’re potty training can seem harsh, but a little planning makes it much more manageable. Here’s how to keep things on track when you’re not home.

Pack Your Potty Bag like your diaper bag; this one’s for training. Be sure to include a portable potty seat—those foldable ones are amazing! Pack also wipes, hand sanitizer, and plastic bags for those moments. And, of course, don’t forget a couple of extra outfits because accidents happen. Consider it prepping for a mini-adventure. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did!
Before you head out, check online or use an app to scout bathroom locations at your destination. Family-friendly places like malls and restaurants are usually a safe bet. Knowing where you can quickly dash with your tot can reduce stress.
Try to keep bathroom breaks as close to their regular schedule as possible. If your kid usually goes right after meals, remember that during your outing. Check if they must go every 1-2 hours, depending on their habits. Setting a timer on your phone can be a game-changer for tracking when it’s time to head to the restroom.
Whether your child makes it to the potty in time, heap on the praise! A sticker, a high five, or a cheerful song can make the experience fun and stress-free. Frame potty breaks as a fun stop on your adventure, especially if you’re at a park: “First, we use the bathroom, then it’s all the swings and slides you want!”
Bring a pull-up and remember the portable potty for longer outings. Remind your little one that it’s just a backup plan, and using the regular potty is still the goal. It lessens the pressure and makes new places less intimidating.
A favorite book or a small toy can make a public bathroom less daunting. It’s like bringing a piece of home along to comfort them in unfamiliar settings.
Accidents are part of the training. When they happen, keep your cool and cheer any effort your little one makes. Focus on the attempt rather than the outcome.
Before you leave the house, take a moment to explain the day’s plan, especially about using different bathrooms. This will help set expectations and make your child more comfortable with the idea.
If someone else is watching your child while you’re out, ensure they understand your child’s potty routine. Consistency is comforting and can help your child feel secure, even when you’re not there.
Have your child try the portable potty at home a few times before your trip. Familiarity breeds comfort, making those potty breaks smoother when you’re out and about.
If your child needs the bathroom suddenly—like while you’re driving or handling luggage—keep your tone gentle and patient. Explain if they need to wait and why. A calm, reassuring voice keeps their confidence up and reduces stress for both of you.