Potty Training: What to Do and What to Avoid

Potty Training: What to Do and What to Avoid

Potty training—what a ride! One minute, you’re high-fiving because your tot nailed it; the next, you’re cleaning up a spill. But it’s all part of the journey! Here’s what’s worked for us:

Do’s:

• Look for the right signs. When they start staying dry or showing interest in the toilet, they might be ready.
• Find a suitable potty, whether with their favorite characters or just a comfortable plain seat that fits; find one they like.
• Make it a routine. Slip it into daily life, like after lunch or bedtime.
• Praise the effort; even if nothing happens, a big cheer for trying makes a difference.
• Celebrate every try; every big or small attempt gets a celebration.
• Opt for easy clothes, such as elastic waists and loose fits, simple dresses—anything that makes getting to the potty easier.
•  Let them see how you use the toilet and talk it through. It’s weird but helpful.
• Stay calm when accidents happen. It’s all part of learning. Keep your cool and show them how to clean up.

Don’ts:

• Don’t rush them. If they’re not ready, wait. No stress.
• Avoid starting at stressful times, like during a move or right after a new baby arrives.
• Don’t get upset over accidents. Keep the vibes positive, even when there’s a mess.
• The potty is for learning, not for timeouts. Never use the potty as punishment.
• Take breaks if needed: if they’re not into it, it’s okay to pause and try again later.
• Don’t compare; every child is different, and they’ll get there at their own pace.
• Watch for their cues; they often show signs when they need to go.
• Keep a routine; consistency helps them understand what’s expected.
• Speak kindly; no “dirty” or “stinky” talk. Keep it positive.
• Let them explore. If they first treat the potty like a toy, that’s okay. They’re just getting used to it, so there’s no rush.
• Keep them hydrated; don’t cut down on drinks; it doesn’t help and isn’t healthy.
• Don’t make them sit on the toilet if they don’t want to. 

When should you see a pediatrician?

You may want to consult a pediatrician about potty training in the following situations: 

1. If your child reaches age 4 and still hasn’t shown readiness or mastered daytime potty training.
2. If they’re hurting or struggling to go pee or poop, or seem constipated, or have a urinary infection.
3. If they haven’t pooped for three whole days. 
4. If they’re peeing a lot or hardly at all.
5. If you notice blood in their pee
6. If they say no to the potty, even when they have to go.

These signs might mean something’s not quite right, so it’s a good idea to have the doctor check just to be sure.